One of the most ridiculous concepts that society promotes is that we should always consider “the other side”, that we should always compromise, that the truth is always “in the middle. The problem with this is that it ignores how many stances and opinions are completely not compatible with each other.
Feminism, anti-racism, and other similar issues are not a friendly debate. They are a struggle that’s life and death for millions (or, realistically, billions) of people. They are struggles whose only eventual outcome is the eradication of what they fight against (patriarchy, white supremacy, etc). There is no compromise, there is no “truth in the middle”, and there’s certainly no “agree to disagree” about it. Either patriarchy is abolished completely or it isn’t at all; either white supremacy becomes a ridiculous relic of the past as it should be or people of color continue to suffer or be murdered in its name.
These movements can’t “consider the other side” because the other side is actively trying to eradicate them and dehumanize their participants. To agree to be dehumanized under new conditions is not acceptable. MRAs and “equalists” often wonder why feminists won’t debate them, but it’s because they don’t understand that they’re the enemy, not a like-minded person with a different approach.
Why must people attack others when they clearly mean well because they’re not using the exact language or being as pedantic as is ‘necessary’. This aggrivates me so fucking much.
Because intent isn’t fucking magical and doesn’t absolve problematic-ness. If I do something problematic myself I’d try and correct myself and apologize but it doesn’t fix the fact that I caused harm. Ariana’s statement is based in ignorance, and the fact that she has good intent doesn’t fix that.
How unfortunate is it that my parents had to literally force me to wear beautiful parts of my culture because I was afraid of being ostracized, but Selena Gomez can take aspects of the clothing I grew up with and make money off of them? How unfortunate is it that South Asian immigrants and South Asian Americans are Otherized every single day for the way they look, talk, and dress, but Urban Outfitters continues to commodify and make a profit off the sale of bindis – as made popular by American pop stars?
[..] My bindi is not a way for you to present yourself as being friendly to South Asian culture while exotifying it. My bindi is from my mother, put in my drawer because it is another mark of my internalized Otherness, on top of my brown skin. My bindi is tainted by Western celebrities trying to be “cultural” or “bohemian” or “tribal.” My bindi is not just a piece of plastic, my bindi is not for sale, and my bindi is not for you.
While you are trying to be supportive saying “Some girls want to be boys and some boys want to be girls, that’s okay.” Is transphobic.
You just completely invalidated their actual gender.
from Attitudes and Self-Images of Male and Female Bisexuals by Carol D. Bronn
“both worlds are closets” Ouch. That one hit home (via loveintheshadowsistheonlykind)
i wish this website would stop glorifying having no friends because actually having no friends sucks and feels horrible
For you it’s ‘social justice lolz omg you people care too much’
For me, it’s my fucking life.
I don’t patronize issues that don’t directly involve me, because for someone out there, it’s not just ‘an issue’ it’s their LIFE.
You don’t give a shit about people stereotyping and perpetuating negative ideas about marginalized groups? fine. But don’t insult those of us who do care by trivializing and reducing us to ‘social justice warriors’.
You don’t care? then stfu and stay away from our spaces and conversations.